On the Toy Position

The Toy positon is something we invented lately to get round the tricky dynamic of boy-on-top sex.
I spent a lot of my adolescence thinking that the Missionary position was the be-all and end-all of HeteroSex, and swearing I wanted nothing to do with it. Why would I let a man pin me down and do what he liked? I couldn't imagine getting any fun out of it at all. (As mentioned previously, I can usually only come when I'm face down).

Besides, it was named for the Christian missionaries in Polynesia who insisted it is the only correct position, expressing the man's God-given superiority. The Polynesians, who'd been creatively fooling about with other methods for centuries, were mystified by this assertion. (Wikipedia says this is a myth, but, hey, never let the truth stand in the way of a good story).

Then I started sleeping with boys, and found that if badly done, I can't stand this position, because it limits my freedom to move and my ability to turn myself on, and it can get very impersonal.

Taken slowly and sensitively, though, I love it. There's something slightlty subby about staring up into a boy's face, which I like in a vanilla context. However, while domming Cupid, that doesn't really have the required degree of force, so to begin with we usually used it if we were being slightly vanilla or very affectionate.

Then I had an idea which would make it more fun for me physically and more subby for Cupid. I'd read in the Hite Report (a fantastic book, highly recommended) that some women vary intercourse by using the man's cock to rub against her outer genitals - in other words, not penetrating, just rubbing, rather like playing about with the tip of a dildo or a vibrator. That way she could stimulate her clit, which is tricky in the missionary position. So I started doing this when we were in the right position for it.

Then the other day I decided to make it an instruction he'd know immediately. There afre a few of these. 'Down' means I expect him to kneel, 'strip off' is self-explanatory, and a well-directed nudge of his head is the non-verbal signal to begin oral sex on me.

So I explained the Toy Position to him. I lie with my legs spread, and he kneels between my thighs while I used his cock as my toy, usually rubbing it on my clit, and building up to fucking. (In theory, I could play till I'd had enough and then say stop. In practise it's such a turn-on I haven't yet managed to reach the point of calling a halt, and I just end up fucking him, however much I didn't mean to).

Being entirely in control of how much fun he gets, and controlling him by controlling his cock, gives me a huge thrill. I suspect the tension of the position works pretty well for him too.